A Tale of Two Perspectives

I'm grateful because I know that I could easily be a negative person. I tend to be more of a realistic visionary, refusing to be told I can't. And my poor wife, when I get my mind on something it's like a steel trap, and she has to hear about it until the idea becomes a reality or until the realistic part kicks in. Over time I've learned to give up when the idea simply distracts me from things I know are more important to me and my family. I can understand how people can be negative. Life is hard. For me, the hard makes it good. Don't get me wrong, though. While I won't judge a negative person (usually), I can only take so much before I feel the life sucked out of me. I know when to move on. Again, usually.

Because I had a hole in my head or some other neurological disorder I kept on reading The Spirit Level by Richard Wilkinson and Kate Pickett even after drudging my way through the first few pages. I felt the need to contrast it with Rosamund and Benjamin Zander's The Art of Possibility (AOP) because the two books illuminate the same world from completely different perspectives. One book is all about why you can, and the other why you can't. Guess which is which and which one I like better.

AOP kills me as it NAILS all the things that are wrong with The Spirit Level. The Spirit Level is all about measuring misery in the world and claiming some undefined sense of Why Greater Equality Makes Societies Stronger. So The Art of Possibility opens with some perspective on this measurement world.

All the manifestations of the world of measurement - the winning and losing, the gaining and acceptance and the threatened rejection, the raised hopes and the dash into despair - all are based on a single assumption that is hidden from our awareness. The assumption is that life is about staying alive and making it through - surviving in a world of scarcity and peril. Even when life is at its best in the measurement world, this assumption is the backdrop for the play, and ... it keeps the universe of possibility out of view.

Life in the measurement world seems to be arranged in hierarchies: some groups, people, bodies, places, and ideas seem better or more powerful than others. Lines appear, dividing an inside from an outside: some people, races, and organizations are safer and more desirable to belong to than others. There are only so many pieces of the pie.

Many people's lives are in daily jeopardy, and they must and do concentrate on staying alive, as any one of us would if held up on the street or lost at sea. That is not the same as survival-thinking, which is the undiscriminating, ongoing attitude that life is dangerous and that one must put one's energy into looking out for Number One.

True scarcity and scarcity-thinking are different phenomena as well. There are regions of the world where resources are locally scarce, where people lack for their most fundamental needs. However, scarcity-thinking is an attitude as prevalent among the well-heeled as among the down-at-heel, and remains unaltered by a change in circumstances. It is a fatalistic outlook, as profiled by the English economist Thomas Malthus in his 1798 'Essay on the Principle of Population' that predicts that supplies - which appear fixed and limited - will eventually run out. This attitude prompts us to seek to acquire more for ourselves no matter how much we have. Scarcity-thinking and real scarcity are interactive in the simple sense that the frenzied accumulation of resources by some leaves others without enough, in a world that has the means to supply the basic needs of everyone. They are correlated in that the indiscriminate use of the earth's resources, at a rate faster than the earth can regenerate, leaves the next generation with shrinking reserves.

So I'm asking myself, "Do people really live their lives with this mentality?" Enter The Spirit Level. Page 1:

It is a remarkable paradox that, at the pinnacle of human material and technical achievement, we find ourselves anxiety-ridden, prone to depression, worried about how others see us, unsure of our friendships, driven to consume and with little or no community life. Lacking the relaxed social contact and emotional satisfaction we all need, we seek comfort in over-eating, obsessive shopping and spending, or become prey to excessive alcohol, psychoactive medicines and illegal drugs.

How is it that we have created so much mental and emotional suffering despite levels of wealth and comfort unprecedented in human history? Often what we feel is missing is little more than time enjoying the company of friends, yet even that can seem beyond us. We talk as if our lives were a constant battle for psychological survival, struggling against stress and emotional exhaustion, but the truth is that ht luxury and extravagance of our lives is so great that it threatens the planet.

Sheesh. I don't have a clue who the "we" is that the authors keep talking about. In fact they use the term throughout the book without ever identifying them. All I know is that I'm glad I'm not one of them. No wonder they feel mental and emotional suffering. If I were them I'd find new friends.

Back to The Art of Possibility. Well, how is Possibility?

Let us suppose, now, that a university of possibility stretches beyond the world of measurement to include all worlds: infinite, generative, and abundant. Unimpeded on a daily basis by the concern for survival, free from the generalized assumption of scarcity, a person stands in the great space of possibility in a posture of openness, with an unfettered imagination for what can be.

We speak with the awareness that language creates categories of meaning that open up new worlds to explore. Life appears as variety, pattern, and shimmering movement, inviting us in every moment to engage. The pie is enormous, and if you take a slice, the pie is whole again.

The action in a universe of possibility may be characterized as generative, or giving, in all senses of that word - producing new life, creating new ideas, consciously endowing with meaning, contributing, yielding to the power of contexts. The relationship between people and environments is highlighted, not the people and things themselves. Emotions that are often relegated to the special category of spirituality are abundant here: joy, grace, awe, wholeness, passion, and compassion.

Now that's the way to live life. One life. Two very different philosophies.

C'mon, though. I mean, you gotta be realistic.

Well, for one, I've been living my life realistically positively for 41 years. And I ain't changing my mind now. Too many people in this world need too much help for one more person to go negative on them. Secondly, here are both views in action with the backdrop of the President's recent State of the Union speech. Harvard economist Greg Mankiw evaluates in a February 12, 2011 New York Times OpEd the President's State of the Union phrase, "Win The Future"

More troublesome to me as an economist, though, is that calling on Americans to “win the future” misleads us about the nature of the policy choices ahead. Achieving economic prosperity is not like winning a game, and guiding an economy is not like managing a sports team.

To see why, let’s start with a basic economic transaction. You have a driveway covered in snow and would be willing to pay $40 to have it shoveled. The boy next door can do it in two hours, or he can spend that time playing on his Xbox, an activity he values at $20. The solution is obvious: You offer him $30 to shovel your drive, and he happily agrees.

The key here is that everyone gains from trade. By buying something for $30 that you value at $40, you get $10 of what economists call “consumer surplus.” Similarly, your young neighbor gets $10 of “producer surplus,” because he earns $30 of income by incurring only $20 of cost. Unlike a sports contest, which by necessity has a winner and a loser, a voluntary economic transaction between consenting consumers and producers typically benefits both parties.

Listening to the president, you might think that competition from China and other rapidly growing nations was one of the larger threats facing the United States. But the essence of economic exchange belies that description. Other nations are best viewed not as our competitors but as our trading partners. Partners are to be welcomed, not feared. As a general matter, their prosperity does not come at our expense.

Both of these worldviews really do drive people's thinking on a day-to-day basis. I'm sure views along the continuum between these two ends are also held by many. For me, life is much too rich and rewarding an experience to let someone else tell me how awful it is. My personal experience invalidates their premise.


Strength In Weakness

Let's just say I'm not so good with the details. Vision, check. I can do that. I can even inspire people. Confronted with an accounting problem and it's deer in the headlights time. Sure, I could fake it, but I'm smart enough to know how that one's going to turn out. So I'm taking a look at my leadership of HOPE worldwide Cincinnati Chapter and I see some areas that need attention if this thing is really, really going to make a difference in the Cincinnati community. These areas are things I know very little about: marketing, administration, accounting, and reporting.

Well, what am I going to do? I need a brand. I need a plan. I need a simple, straightforward and clear message. I need a clear budget that allows me to prioritize. I need to measure and demonstrate value and effectiveness. Okay, this is enough to overwhelm someone who's working from ground zero so to speak. It's not really ground zero as the Cincinnati chapter has a ton of support, but it feels like that from my perspective. Knowing that I'll only do harm by trying to address these issues myself, I ask for help. And I started with my accounting needs.

I'm at Starbucks with a kid, a college student. He hasn't even graduated yet. But he knows his accounting stuff. I figure my budget and funding needs at this point are small enough that he's not going to screw it up. Besides, I have a corporate accountant watching my back at HQ if I need him. I say, "Look, I need some help with the budgeting and accounting." Then we talk about it for half an hour. Then he looks at me and says, "I really appreciate your leadership. It's inspiring. It takes a real leader to admit when he needs help." Wow. I'm floored. I knew I was a decent leader, but I learned a lesson in this one. My being real in expressing my weakness and need for help caused the stock in my leadership ability to rise.


Don't Wait To Tell Him

My father-in-law won't be around much longer. A few years ago after taking medication related to some heart problems he developed a degenerative lung condition that has slowly been choking him. His condition has deteriorated quickly. His birthday is today, Valentine's Day, and my family spent time with him and my kids' grandma yesterday. On our way over I wrote out a birthday card letting him know what a terrific grandfather he's been through the years. You see, he's a step grandfather/father-in-law/father. And he's been the one that he didn't need to be. He came into our lives only a couple of years before I married his step daughter, and since that time has been around to help us get and keep our lives together. That started with our first home. In fact, the day my wife and I signed the mortgage papers I walked in the front door of our home to find the living room ceiling in a pile - on the floor. That was the beginning of a 7-year refurbishing of a 1926 two-story brick home with a giant picture window opening to a wooded back yard. Tons of memories.

I don't want my father-in-law to think any of this was missed or taken for granted. He's been such a support to my marriage, and he's been a grandfather that does anything for his grand kids. When he didn't have to. I told him all this in his card, and he began to tear up. He deserves to know how valuable his life has been. And despite any shortcomings he may see in himself, he is pure gold in our eyes. The proof, so they say, is in the pudding. If you ask my kids, they'll second my words. Of course we're preparing them for the end, and as we talk through it my kids get quiet. They know what a great support their grandfather has been in their lives.

He never stops giving. Yesterday he gave me a copy of the instructions for how to donate his body to the University of Cincinnati Medical Center for study once he's gone. Dad, we love you.


The Art of Possibility

It's been years since I've set a goal. I've tried before. You know, the whole SMART goal thing - Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely. It just doesn't work for me. Goals are too restrictive for me. If I'm so single-minded in my focus I'll miss out on the rich and broad experiences of life. Besides, without goals, I've accomplished more than I could have hoped or imagined. Still, when I describe my philosophy about how I approach life I feel like I short change all the value I get. I have not articulated my approach well, and to date I describe my approach as getting in the boat and seeing where it takes me rather than directing the boat where I want it to go. Some argue that the boat may crest a waterfall. Well that sounds like an awesome adventure to me.

I'm reading two books at the moment. I don't generally advocate that as I've found I can get through one book more quickly if I don't divide my attention. But one of the books is mind-numbing and frustrating, so I need another outlet. More on that later (i.e. what book, why is it numbing and frustrating, and why would I continue reading it). The other is Rosamund and Benjamin Zander's The Art of Possibility. Needless to say it's invigorating. Additionally the Zanders have articulated for me what I've inherently known about myself.

You are more likely to be successful, overall, if you participate joyfully with projects and goals and do not think your life depends on achieving the mark because then you will be better able to connect to people all around you. On the whole, resources are likely to come to you in greater abundance when you are generous and inclusive and engage people in your passion for life. There aren't any guarantees, of course. When you are oriented to abundance, you care less about being in control, and you take more risks. You may give away short-term profits in pursuit of a bigger dream; you may take a long view without being able to predict the outcome. In the measurement world, you set a goal and strive for it [AE: in this context not a good thing]. In the universe of possibility, you set the context and let life unfold.

Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander

The Art of Possibility

Let life unfold. They don't teach you this stuff in school. The other book, well, it's about the scarcity mentality and dividing a limited pie. Nothing inspiring there, but sometimes you just gotta understand the other side.


What Really Matters

I spend a lot of time reading. I read on all sorts of different topics from many perspectives. I don't want to become closed-minded in my thinking or dogmatic about being correct. When I'm in my car I'm listening to podcasts of all sorts of different topics. When I'm alone in my car, FM or AM radio is barely used. Music is on when my kids are in the car - their music - because I want to understand their world. I need to hear the words that are important to them. I spend quite a bit of time with my kids and my family, although I need to spend more one-on-one time with my wife. I perform to the best of my ability at my day job, not because I'm anything special, but because I want to spend my time productively and not halfheartedly. I'm concerned about the little guy, the underdog. I want justice, and justice for all. I think a lot about processes. Processes can be used to encourage humanity by unlocking the value an individual brings to the table, or they can be used to demoralize and illuminate that an individual is only a cog in the machine. I think about people and look for ways to help bring out their very best so they can be proud of who they are. I believe in people. I run a local chapter of a global non-profit that targets meeting the needs of the poor. This non-profit provides an opportunity for people to exercise their God-given talents and skills in ways their day jobs may never allow for. The volunteers here meet people's needs on their terms and in their own ways. It's incredibly fulfilling. I also have a vision for keeping innovative talented young professionals in Cincinnati. I've been working on a framework at the University of Cincinnati that connects students and their great ideas with the venture capital and entrepreneur community. I'd like these students to know there is a support system in Cincinnati for their ideas, and that the cube farm is not the only environment awaiting them after graduation. Supporting and providing a local vision for these visionaries is important. I serve on a number of local and national advisory boards through HOPE worldwide, the UC Alumni Association, the McMicken College of Arts & Sciences, as well as serve to organize the local TechLife Cincinnati group and the GiveCamp effort. I've written for Soapbox, which I think is a creative and insightful look at all the trends strengthening the Cincinnati story. I'm actively involved in my church. In fact I spend a lot of time there. Until 2009 I had previously led different youth ministries there for almost 15 years. All of this is just the tip of the ice burg of what has been a rich and fulfilling life of experiencing amazing things and meeting amazing people.

So last night I get notice that a very good friend who has already battled and beat one form of cancer has been diagnosed with leukemia. He's in the hospital for the next 30 days trying to get it under control. And quite frankly, in the moment of this news my mind flashed back through the experiences of my life. The evaluation of those experiences? "So what." That's my answer. That's all I could muster.